Benjamin F. Dirgins, Jr.

Benjamin Francis Dirgins Jr., 89, formerly from Meriden and Westbrook, Connecticut, passed away peacefully in Bedford, New Hampshire on October 6, 2025.

Born and raised in Fairfield, Connecticut, Ben graduated from his beloved alma mater, Norwich University in 1957, followed by two years in the Army Corps of Engineers. He dedicated over 35 years of his career as a Professional Engineer with the State of Connecticut Department of Transportation in the bridge division. Following his retirement in 1992, he spent several years as the Chief Structural Engineer for L-C Associates. Known for his skill and attention to detail, his work left a lasting impact on the state and the people he served.

Ben shared 68 wonderful years of marriage with his beloved wife, Charlotte Dirgins. Together, they built a life full of love and family. He was devoted father to Brenda Willard (Bruce), Brian Dirgins, David Dirgins (Heidi), and Dan Dirgins (Ellen). He was also the proud grandfather of Tim Dirgins, Kelly Dirgins, Megan Dirgins, Hannah Dirgins, Brendan Dirgins, and Niki Nicodemi (AJ), and great-grandfather to Isabella Nicodemi which brought him immeasurable joy.

Outside of his career, the man we called “Benny” enjoyed saltwater fishing, golfing, trips to the casino and vacations. As a young couple Benny and Charlotte took the family on a cross-country trip to California; and other vacations included Florida, Germany, the Outer Banks, and his favorite, annual family vacations in Old Saybrook, CT.

He was very creative and served as the go-to guy for home renovations and anything that needed repair. There was never a home project too big or complicated for him and lasting memories often were a part of these projects. He passed that legacy to his children, instilling in them the same values and talents that had guided his own journey. In retirement he took a keen interest in following Wall Street, but most of all, he cherished time spent with his family, creating memories that will be treasured for generations.

The family extends their deepest gratitude to the staff at Bowman Place and BAYADA Hospice care for their compassionate support, guidance, and unwavering kindness in caring for “Benny”.

A private service is planned. Lambert Funeral Home and Crematory is assisting the family with arrangements.